I was going to post a short summary of the history of Valentines day today, but I found this instead, which explains it better than I can.
Read it and understand what Valentines day is all about.
Eve Ensler, the authoress of "the Vagina monologues", has proclaimed St. Valentines
Day as V-day. I don't suppose I have to explain what the "V" stands for. You can read about that here.Read it and understand.
I frankly don't know what to say about this. Or rather, I don't know where to begin describing how offensive this idea is to me. There are many things I could say, but the emotions overwhelm me.
I will say this:
I am all for creating awareness of the horror of rape, and all other kinds of sexual abuse, and I agree with Ms. Ensler that it is indeed a serious problem all over the world. But I do not see the perversion of St Valentine's Day as a solution.
Speaking as a red-blooded heterosexual male, I can admit that the emotion I feel when hearing a woman talk frankly about her vagina is not one of heart felt sympathy for sexual abuse victims. No, the emotion I begin to feel is centered in a different part of my anatomy. And it's not sympathy. And it's not for victims.
I knew this would be difficult to convey.
It occurs to me that women describing their vaginas to a room full of hormonally driven men and emotionally charged women serves better to exacerbate the problem instead of solving the problem. Women may be able to get the message Ms Ensler seeks to convey much easier than men. I don't know. I don't understand women.
But I do understand men. And I know that when a man hears a woman talking dirty, it excites him. It doesn't automatically cause concern for the plight of sexually abused women. In fact, in some of the more unstable men, hearing a woman talk dirty might even encourage violence against women.
Personally, I love and respect women. And I understand the difference between love and lust. I think that too many people confuse the two. Watch any movie that has come out of Hollywood in the last several decades. The scenario is usually the same. Boy meets girl. Boy and girl have sex. boy and girl fall in love. They rarely fall in love before having sex.
Love and lust. Lust and love. The two are interchangable in today's society. That's not what God intended.
I think Valentines Day should stay Valentines Day. A celebration of love and romance. Not sexual perversion.
4 comments:
Before we know it, we'll have GLBTTBNP Day........And it won't be a 'happy' one.
Those of you unfamiliar with the acronym need to go to my glossary.
http://peroslinks.blogspot.com/2005/01/peros-glossary_12.html
Good points all, Brandon. I think what sets us normal human beings apart from those that perpetrate sexual abuse is the fact that when we are taught not to abuse, we obey those that teach us rather than rebel.
It takes more strength to resist temptation than it does to give in to it.
I think it's ridiculous to try to cast a shadow on Valentine's Day, but as frenziedfeline said, if they want to ruin it for themselves, fine.
Yes, it is agreeably stupid, Mark, for a woman to talk dirty in front of men and expect the men to have any other reaction than the one you referred to.
And I find it extremely bad taste for either men or women to talk publicly about their sexual anatomy. But maybe that's just me. I was raised in a more genteel generation, thank God. :)
Your posts are always thought provoking.
Guns don't shoot people ...Dick Cheney with a gun shoots people...
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